I am aware that I need (crave) more structure (self-imposed) a schedule walls around me a budget (no oppression) I crave arms around me that will hold not hurt I crave words in my ear whispered not yelled The tension that holds the world together unraveled too far the other way unraveled to formlessness I…
I’ve been doing a lot of rebuilding over this past year. Rebuilding (or perhaps finally building) my health, my heart and my sense of place in the world. I recently joined a support group so I wouldn’t feel alone with this journey. In our last group, we addressed what trust looks like. What does it…
“Whatever causes night in our souls may leave stars.” ~Victor Hugo: Ninety-Three Not being a big follower of pop culture, I was only recently introduced to the term, “Manic Pixie Dream Girl“. My ignorance of the term, however, doesn’t mean I don’t understand this flat, one-dimensional character that people try to project on to the…
When I reflect back on relationships that have ended badly, I realize that a good first thing to notice is whether we walk beside each other comfortably and willingly. Taking time with one another, syncing up a little, leaning in, listening. It might seem like a small thing but it’s a fractal of many others…
A friend recently told me he was having a hard time and wondered if I would have a drink with him. “Sure,” I said. We agreed to meet at 7:00 at a local restaurant. When I arrived, he wasn’t there so I checked my phone. There was a message from him saying he had…