Like the song says, not sayin’ I don’t want to fall in love again (cuz I would) but one thing is for sure, I have learned how fabulous it is to be a free agent. Learning how to be whole within myself has been the biggest gift I’ve given myself in this life.
There’s something so beautiful about being whole and contained and feeling free to choose a partner because he makes my heart sing not because he “completes me” or wants that from me.
Our heart knows the difference between love and possession (or obsession). Our heart knows the different between love and duty. I would rather be alone than be with someone who wants to possess me or contain me so they can feel safe. These kinds of relationships lack integrity.
So, for now, I’m happily single. My heart will know when it finds what it needs. In the meantime, it’s great fun to experience the elation of not being tethered and getting to choose who I spend my time with–for my own reasons.