In the past couple of months, I have had numerous people tell me that they are having an affair on the internet. They are living in some kind of liminal place with someone that is either married or lives really far away while meanwhile their life falls to shit and they wait for the day–the “right” moment when it all changes. Guess what? It doesn’t work that way.

I used to do this. I learned a lot. I don’t do it anymore because it isn’t real. It’s isn’t life. It’s a half life.

To those who are doing this, I encourage you to watch the movie “Coraline” which shows how the unconscious feminine lures you into a place of fantasy and entraps you.

Stop. Just stop it. It is hurting you no matter how much you try to justify it.

If you are unhappy in your life or your marriage, change yourself and/or leave the marriage and move forward but don’t stay in purgatory.

We need you here on the planet living your joy.

*love to all the tender places*