beneviolence

be·nevi·o·lence /bəˈnɛ vahy-uh-luhns/
–noun
1. desire to do harm to others and make one’s point while appearing to exhibit goodwill or charitableness.
2. an act of passive-aggressive violence all prettied up with politically correct or “spiritual” words.

After reading an email I received from someone today, John coined this clever term. I have been on both the giving and receiving ends of this and it feels pretty shitty. It’s interesting how often we think we are saving face when, in reality, the people in our lives feel or “hear” with their intuition, the violence and aggressiveness underneath it all.

Let’s stop pretending to be benevolent or “spiritual” and be real. I think we’ll get a lot further along on our spiritual paths that way. I know I will.